Doormat?
12.11.07 (1:41 am) [edit]
Am I a doormat? I know I have a tendency to give into people because to be honest, there's very little that rubs me the wrong way enough for me to actually contest it. Mostly, I let things slide because I'm too tired to argue. Does that make me a pushover? A bit, I suppose, and yes, it's been something of a problem, but lately, since I've cleared out the deadwood (read: deadbeats) in my life, it hasn't been too troubling. Today someone said to me though, "You're a doormat." Am I still, I wonder? Because I kinda think I'm not, just accommodating when I want to be. When people say stuff like that to me, I sorta wonder if I'm slipping back into my old, second-fiddle ways. I hope not. I hated being there. I hated feeling like I was never good enough or just enough. How do I stop myself from being pulled back there? Should I start asserting myself more, even at the risk of causing conflicts? Or should I do some more emotional housekeeping?
Final thought: I have no idea.
Final thought: I have no idea.
posted by: Barnabus1 (reply)
post date: 12.10.07 (10:22 am)
Don't hesitate to disagree, if it's something you really don't like or want to do! I try to be easy going, but I have definite limits, and when someone stomps on them, they know it right away! I don't pull punches in that way! We can all be assertive, without getting carried away, even by asking "why"? It would be nice to ask the person who said you were a doormat, Why do you think so? an assertive question, and one where you can learn something about yourself...if it's constructive!! If it's just negative garbage, then ignore!!
posted by: LadyG (reply)
post date: 12.10.07 (10:37 pm)
Do not be afraid to speak your mind.
posted by: lostin2007 (reply)
post date: 12.15.07 (6:37 pm)
*hugs* I think i would do what Barnabus said, and ask the person why they said that. It can't hurt and it would let you know if you are starting to slip back into your old ways. It's hard work changing and it's even harder not to back step. I think it's good to be a little assertive. *hugs*
posted by: SupremeAnna (reply)
post date: 12.22.07 (8:55 am)
Reply to: lostin2007
i've been having a rough time lately and i think it's because i haven't been assertive. thanks for your advice and for dropping in. have a wonderful holiday. :)
posted by: lostin2007 (reply)
post date: 12.25.07 (6:31 pm)
Hope you have a wonderful holiday as well.