Yet another flaw
I've always tried to live so that my self-worth wasn't tied up with what other people thought or felt about me, and for the most part, I've been doing okay. But the thing is, I'm me and me can't help but get carried along with other people's emotions or lack thereof. Consequently, my mood can be turned by an ill-timed phrase, a misplaced silence, a brusque word and it sucks. Being so swayed by other people means my emotions sometimes aren't my own. Maybe that's why I like being alone sometimes; the only person talking is myself. Course then you have to deal with the fact that you're talking to yourself, but that's another problem entirely. I sometimes wonder why I care so much, why I let others dictate my feelings, and really, I have no idea. It could be part of the fact that I'm so emotionally needy sometimes. I'm the girl who comes home and asks her mother, "Did you miss me?" I always need to hear it, even if I know there's no logic to it; how can you miss someone who's been away for less than twelve hours? No matter how hard I try to cut, it's never a clean separation between my own emotions and others. I'm much better than I was. I was a wreck as a kid. The wrong look could reduce me to tears. I'm not so weak nowadays, but still, there are times, I've gone from perfectly content to perfectly miserable just because someone said the wrong thing. Of course, I know, you can't expect other people to make you feel good (even if they can make you feel bad), but emotions are a tricky thing. This condition makes me feel like a fool, but I just can't seem to fix it.
Final thought: Investing too much of yourself is not a very wise move.
posted by: SupremeAnna (reply)
post date: 08.24.06 (10:06 am)
Reply to: LadyG
Your advice is sound; I'll try for it, but it's so hard.